Hi, I’m Jeffrey.
Bestselling Author of
‘Take Your Own Advice.’

Twenty years ago — at a Buddhist monastery of all places — I almost died by suicide. My inner voices of self-hate were so loud that I couldn’t bear to be here anymore. It turns out I was lucky that day because, for the first time, I experienced the heavy feelings while staying at a Buddhist monastery. I sat and meditated within the darkness, and that’s how I began to hear my inner voice of light. Today, I'm a bestselling author and viral Tiktok star. Millions of people, celebrities, and leaders of international brands come to me to learn how to hear their inner voices of safety, kindness, and peace.

I've studied Zen for almost 25 years,
and my mission is simple:

To represent unconditional love to anyone who needs a reminder and to provide fundamental tools for self-healing and shame-free authenticity. I want you to feel less alone. I want us to enjoy growing and loving our lives together.

If I can make your darkness less powerful and help you stop feeling lonely while you grow your light, I've lived my life well.

THIS 40-SOMETHING
nonbinary peacemaker has:

Written a bestselling book, ‘How To Be You,’ which topped Oprah’s Gratitude Meter

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Received billions of views for kind and encouraging content

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Written the #1 Amazon Self-Esteem Bestseller ‘Take Your Own Advice.’

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Appeared, in 2016, as one of the first nonbinary people on National TV

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Loved my husband for 13 beautiful years

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My TikToks and compassionate short-form videos have over three billion views.
I am a bestselling author, viral TikTok and Instagram star, nonbinary activist, and LGBTQ keynote speaker. I was the first nonbinary public figures to appear on national television when I was interviewed on Newsmax in 2016. I have always been an advocate for healing and a trailblazer for the nonbinary community, being covered in O magazine, Rolling Stone, and The New York Times.
My #1 bestseller, ‘How to Be You,’ was one of the first nonbinary books to tell our story. In 2023, I told our story again with my second book for Penguin Random House, ‘Take Your Own Advice.’
‘How To Be You’ topped Oprah's Gratitude Meter and was named Excellent Book of the Year by TED-Ed. As chronicled in ‘How To Be You,’ I lived as a Zen monk and have studied Zen Buddhism for over 20 years.
‘Take Your Own Advice,’ was a #1 Amazon Best Seller, outselling all Self-Esteem books on Amazon the day of its release. Apple Books named ‘Take Your Own Advice’ a “Best Book of the Month.”

3 BILLION VIEWS

#1 BESTSELLER

BEST BOOK OF THE MONTH

FIRST NONBINARY PERSON ON NATIONAL TV

FIRST NONBINARY AUTHOR

CORRESPONDENT

CORRESPONDENT

CAMPAIGN CONSULTANT

I CAN'T HELP YOU
FIX YOURSELF

BECAUSE YOU ARE
NOT BROKEN

What I love most about my wonderful and wild life so far is my impact on those who are misunderstood, outcasts, and suffering. I am proudest of being a beacon of bravery, wisdom, and kindness for anybody who needs it.

Thank you for being here, for reading this, and for allowing me to sit with you in kindness. You are delightful.